Who Should Come First, Your Wife or Your Mother? Is One Really More Important?
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We must never forget, though, or take for granted that the man’s mom has a place in his life. This will never change. Unfortunately, it often doesn’t change even if the mother was abusive, abandoning, or otherwise harmful. In these cases, we’d urge men to make decisions in the best interests of their own mental and emotional health.
But if your mom was a nurturing type who always looked out for you, she’ll always get involved in your relationship, hopefully by forming a friendship with your wife. A mother needs to ensure that the other woman is acting in her son’s best interest, just as she would have done.
She may get overbearing sometimes, but her intentions are in the right place. It may just be a case where her maternal instincts kick in and she feels the need to come to her son’s rescue.
No Momma’s Boys, Please!
But a mother needs to know that her throne in the life of a man exists only when he is a child at her house or before marriage. When her son is grown and leaves his mother’s house, the throne becomes available to the woman of the man’s choice. Mothers should not tamper in their son’s relationships – she should let him stand on his own two feet and figure things out for himself.
After all, a woman who holds a man’s heart and ring does not want to know that he gives in to every desire of his mother! No one wants a momma’s boy who lets his mother walk all over him like a doormat.
Ladies, put yourselves in this situation. Would you tolerate your husband giving in to his mother’s every instruction when you are the main woman in the equation? Is that a ‘heck, no!’ I’m hearing?! Yes, she is his mother and deserves respect, but you are his wife.
Who Should Come First, Your Wife or Your Mother? Is One Really More Important? Conclusion
We all know that mother and wife play different roles in the life of a man. We think, though, at the end of the day, issues regarding your relationship should come first. While your mother may know you better than the wife and believe something is best for you, it is not her call to make.
You and your wife are the ones to make and take decisions about the relationship. Going to the altar meant that you handed that right over to the one you married.
Your mother holds a place in your life and you should value her opinion but in the final analysis, it is you and your wife who call the shots. Mother should only come in if it is agreed upon by both parties in the marriage union. Apart from this, your wife should come first. Mother and wife are both important and have their roles but must know where to draw the line. The line ends with the words, “I do!”