Whether you’re a new couple or have been together for years, everyone’s love life can become a little stale in the bedroom.
Most couples are embarrassed about admitting it, but it happens to more people than you’d think.
You might take it as a sign that you’re losing interest in your partner.
They might even take it as a sign that you’re losing interest.
This might not be the case.
Truth be told, you and your partner might simply be too familiar with each other.
And while familiarity often feels like home, it can feel boring as well.
Before you panic and think your relationship is dead, spice it up!
If you need a few ideas, look no further!
Here are 22 things you can try in bed to spice up your love life.
Play A Game
If you can imagine, there are literally hundreds of games specifically designed for couples to play in the bedroom.
For those in the market for some, Deck of Desire, Poker For Lovers, and Sexy Spin the Bottle are just a few.
Truth be told, you don’t need a formal game to spice it up in the bedroom.
Almost any game will do.
For couples you might like regular card games, you can turn any game to an opportunity for fun by putting the word “strip” in front of it.
Whether you’re playing War or Uno, it’s not always about the game, but more the end result.
Light Some Candles
Sometimes, all you need is to set the scene and this is easily done with candles.
The flickering lights definitely set the ambiance of the room, but don’t forget about scents!
You’ll be missing out on setting the mood without scented candles.
All you need are a few “romantic” candles to add something special to the air.
Any candle with vanilla, amber, or rose is going to be perfect aromas for a spicy night.
Remove The Senses
You’ve probably heard that when you remove one sense, the others heighten to accommodate for the imbalance.
This is why you’ll hear some glasses-wearers boast that their hearing is better because their vision is poor.
Is this true? That’s neither here nor there.
One thing we can say is that by removing one of your partner’s senses in the bedroom, you’ll definitely be heightening the others.
By blindfolding them or covering their ears, their sense of touch which try to compensate especially is smell and taste aren’t necessary.
Dabble In Bondage
50 Shades of Grey had everyone ready to dabble in bondage, but the world of BDSM is too murky for us to dive into now.
What you might consider is tying your partner up.
Items like rope are probably too daring to test out on your first try, but use a soft scarf of a tie.
Be sure to give your partner some slack for movement and don’t go into the situation blind!
Bondage is exactly what it sounds like, and while it can be very sexy when done right, do your research so it doesn’t go wrong!
Buy New Lingerie
Some couples just take off their clothes and drop it like it’s hot, but where’s the fun?
Where’s the seduction?
Instead of shedding your layers quickly, get some new lingerie.
Satin, silk, and lace instantly create more sex appeal and help set the mood.
There are tons of different brands to dabble in.
Agent Provocateur has been doing it right for decades, but brands like Savage x Fenty, Victoria’s Secret, and Adore Me are giving women sexy pieces for affordable prices.
Everyone seems to think that talking dirty requires the use of certain four letter words.
That’s not the case!
It’s very possible to communicate with your partner without expletives.
In fact, you might notice that it can make the experience seem more sensual.
Instead (without any words that might get censored on TV), tell your partner what you would like to do to them and what you’d like to be done to you in return.
That’ll usually get the talking in the right direction!
Put On A Romantic Playlist
Love is a tale as old as time, and musical artists have always been writing songs about it.
Whether it’s the emotional act or the physical act, there are thousands of songs to choose from.
You can never go wrong with a little ‘90s R&B, especially with artists like Keith Sweat and Jodeci.
You might prefer the sounds of Dru Hill and Boyz II Men.
Whichever artists get yours and your partners’ blood pumping, put them all on one playlist.
For some quick inspiration, here are 10 quick songs you can add to your own playlist:
“teach me” by Musiq Soulchild
“Freek’N You” by Jodeci
“Can’t Help But Wait” by Trey Songz
“Tonight (Best You Ever Had)” by John Legend
“Sweet Lady” by Tyrese
“Nice & Slow” by Usher
“Hope You Do” by Chris Brown
“Red Light Special” by TLC
“I’ll Make Love To You” by Boyz II Men
“Cater 2 U” by Destiny’s Child
Try A New Position
Positions are quite possibly the easiest thing to get tired of.
That’s because all couples seem to gravitate towards one position – missionary.
While this works for some, trying a new position is an easy way to spice things up quickly.
You could probably rattle at least 5 other positions off the top of your head. Try those!
If you run out of those, that’s what the Kama Sutra is for.
It’s all about creating a physical and emotional response with your partner, and sometimes, a new position will do that.