What The Proverbs 31 Woman Isn’t
Ok, so here are some qualities you shouldn’t find in a Proverbs 31 woman.
A woman more valuable than corals knows her worth. She does not need the validation of men to see her beauty. She sticks to a single mate. Her husband finds her trustworthy and faithful. Her loyalty isn’t fickle. She sticks by her mate during good and bad times.
Disloyalty manifests in several ways. Do you spend hours flirting through text messages with someone who’s not your mate?Are you ready to pack up and leave during a financial crisis at home or when caring for a sick child/mate? Do you take sides with relatives and friends instead of supporting your spouse?
If you’ve answered yes to any of the above questions, you may have a loyalty issue.
A capable woman lets her reasonableness be known. The Proverbs 31 woman left an important model in this regard. She had female servants but that didn’t stop her from getting involved with work around the home. (Proverbs 31:25) In what way could you inadvertently show that you’re inconsiderate and only care about your needs?
Do you wait for inappropriate occasions to discuss serious problems with your mate, perhaps after he’s had a long day at work and would prefer to rest? Do you criticize or have your children under a microscope, always looking out for them to do something wrong? A Proverbs 31 woman recognizes the limitations of her spouse and children.
There’s a lot of stigmas attached to black women in groups. It is said that they tend to gossip. Gossip is natural; it is casual talk, after all. However, if your sole intent is to defame or ruin the reputation of another when you meet up with your friends or relatives, you could be guilty of slander.
The woman of Proverbs 31 “opens her mouth in wisdom”. (Proverbs 31: 26) Rather than use her mouth to tear down, she builds up and speaks kindly to and about others. She doesn’t build her empire by tearing down the walls of others.