He Said I Love You Too Soon, What Should I Do?

He said I love you too soon

Relationships are great, but often shouldn’t be rushed. It takes time to really get to know someone; sure you may be attracted to them, but are they the person you really want to spend your life with?

One common thing I see happening is people throwing around the love word way too soon! So how do you react if you’re faced with this bomb shell?

If you feel that your man has said that he loves you too soon, keep reading. We’re going to show you how to handle things from here! 🙂

How Soon Is Too Soon To Say I Love You? A Week? A Month? More?

A black man who said I love you too soon to his girlfriendWell, if a man tells you he loves you on the first date, then it’s definitely too soon. However, even though it isn’t the first date, you might feel that you’re not ready to hear the words “I love you”. If you’ve only known each other for a short period of time, then you might have a reason to worry. It’s too soon if you feel that the time you’ve spent together is not enough for both of you to fall in love. Although this definition might differ from one person to another, the bottom line is, you’re the ultimate determinant on whether the time is right or not.

What Does “I Love You” Mean?

A happy African American coupleThere are two answers to this question. A man telling you that he loves you might mean a lot or it might just mean nothing. It really depends on what that man thinks love is. He might be infatuated by your beauty or maybe think that he loves you simply because you have a lot of things in common. What you should keep in mind is the fact that the men who quickly fall in love are also more likely to fall out of love quickly. Weigh the situation and see whether the guy is serious or not.

How Should You React When He Expresses His Love Early On? (Should You Say It Back?)

A black man and woman talkingThe words “I love you” might come as a shock to you. So, what should you do next? Well, ladies, keep your cool. If the “L” word makes you feel like you’re being rushed, tell this to the man without sounding harsh. Maybe they just said it because it seemed right at the moment. Remember, how you react will determine the direction of your relationship. Be careful not to scare off a potential life-long partner.

Red Flag: Consider Whether He Was Sober When Saying It

African Amrerican couple smiling in bedWas the man drunk when he told you that he loves you? Was it during or post sex? Well, people under these conditions often say a lot of things that they shouldn’t. Alcohol and sex have a way of making people say things they didn’t think twice about. Wait until he is sober and ask him whether he really meant it. If you haven’t had sex yet, and a man says that he loves you, be careful. He might just be trying to get you to bed!

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  1. On a snapchat post, my boyfriend said “I love my girlfriend.” We’ve only been dating for around maybe 2 weeks, but we’ve known each other longer. He didn’t say it to me directly but it still felt way to soon. What should I do (I really like this guy)?

  2. My boyfriend texted me on Snapchat and said “I love you”. We just met online last week and started dating a few days ago. He said he wanted to wait to say it, but couldn’t resist telling me how he felt. I really like him, but I don’t know what to do.

  3. I know this is an older article but I’m currently finding myself in a similar situation. I really like a guy that I’ve been known for seven years. Although we had a one night stand about five years ago, we still remain friends, (coworkers, but we no longer work in the same office). He has been suggesting that we date over the last few months so I’m giving it a try. The issue is that over the last three days he has texted that he loves me a few times. At first I just ignored it but today I decided to reply, “I don’t think you know me well enough to love me”. He replied “We’ve known each other for seven years, but OK”. I didn’t respond after that because yes we’ve known each other for a while but not in the context of being lovers. That one night stand happened years ago and, it was just that, then hiding it from the rest of our coworkers after that.

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