You Flirt Constantly, Even Without Meaning To
You can’t help it – you flirt with everyone, even if you’re not attracted to them. Your cute coworker? Yes. Your boss’ husband? Yes. The 50-year-old delivery man? Yes.
Flirting makes you feel powerful and wanted.
A woman with this type of daddy issues feels like there’s nothing more valuable than the positive attention of a man, no matter who he is.
How Will Your Daddy Issues Impact Your Dating Life In Negative Ways?
It would be great if our childhoods didn’t affect us, right? It would be great if we could leave the past in the past, and if our parents had no effect on whom we chose as romantic partners. Sadly, our childhoods have more of an impact than we’d like to admit, and if you have daddy issues then you’ll need to be aware of how this may affect your dating life.
First, you’ll probably choose men who are like your father, including his faults. Daddy issues are about trying to reconcile with an absent father, so you’re going to gravitate toward men like him.
Second, you’ll have a hard time appreciating men for who they actually are, because you’ll always be comparing them to your father.
Third, you may sabotage your own relationships. If you’re clingy, jealous and insecure, you’ll never really be able to relax into the relationship, and you’ll spend so much time struggling to keep it together that you won’t actually enjoy it.
Fourth, your desperation for male attention may make your boyfriend feel insecure. You’ll have to work twice as hard to show him that he’s enough and to be aware of when you’re running after the affection of other men.
How Will Your Daddy Issues Impact Your Dating Life In Positive Ways?
You probably don’t think that daddy issues can have a positive impact. After all, we hear nothing but bad things about them, like how they make women possessive. But in certain ways, having daddy issues can have a few positive effects on your dating life.
You invest in your dating life. Yes, sometimes you give too much, but it’s because you’re devoted. Your boyfriend will know that you care.
You like consistency. If a man suddenly changes his behavior, it may seem like he can’t be trusted. While this isn’t necessarily true, it also means that your boyfriend will need to be open and honest with you in order to make you feel comfortable. There’s no room for shadiness.
You don’t trust easily. A man will have to work hard in order to show you that he can be trusted, and when you finally feel like you can trust someone, you’ll know he’s the one.
However, you can have those advantages without having your daddy issues ruin the entire relationship. Here are some ways to work through them.
How Can You Overcome And Fix Your With Your Daddy Issues?
Accept that you have these issues. They’re nothing to be ashamed of. But if you want to start having truly healthy relationships, you need to work through these relationships.
Reflect on your relationships. Have your partners complained that you never seem to trust them? Have your friends expressed concern that you jump from man to man without ever slowing down? Do you see the qualities in your boyfriend the same qualities in your father?
Take control. Your relationship with your father is enormous, but it’s not everything you are. You are an adult. You have full control of your life. Make the choice to release the hold your childhood has had over your life. Start being conscious of your choices, and start making better decisions.
Forgive your father. Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting. But accept that everything that happened, happened. Ruminating on it won’t help. Chasing after men won’t fill the void he left. Take a deep breath and release the past to the past. It may help you to write your thoughts in a journal or to write a letter to your father, even if you don’t mail it.